After 30+ years in Evangelicalism (as a minister of worship and music), having misgivings about its direction, and now being away from it for a year, I suspect that in the evangelical churches, intimacy and reverence have identical meanings.
Intimacy: the Essence of Worship
In evangelical congregations of Baby Boomers, the “deepest and most meaningful worship times” are governed by music, using slow tempos and contemplative melodies. These tunes are accompanied by lyrics that offer little revelation of God’s saving activity. Rather, they focus on banal, intimate expressions of love toward God and/or Jesus. These “intimate” musical worship moments are carefully arranged, emotional manipulations by the music. They generally follow a period of ecstatic music, known as “praise” music. Afterward, the congregation “comes before the throne”, led by the music, to express feelings of adoration toward Christ. These “adoring feelings” are perceived as intimate expressions of love.
Intimacy: Emotional Manipulations by Music
In the evangelical worship service, one of the overriding design features uses music to achieve this movement from the outer courts to the inner courts of “intimacy with God.” The success or failure of a worship service (i.e., the music portions of a worship service) is dependent upon the congregation having the opportunity to express feelings of love and gratitude in moments of musical intimacy. If they feel they have had intimate expressions of love towards God and Christ, they will believe the worship meaningful, true and real. (Is this “narcissistic” worship?)
Intimacy: the Unspoken Assumptions in Worship Definitions
In the definitions of worship, most evangelicals have some understanding that worship is a response to God. This response can be love, thanksgiving, or praise, but the unspoken belief is that it occurs in moments of intimacy with God. Intimacy with God becomes a working value in worship design. I do not believe that this intimacy is the reverence that is found in New Testament writings about worship or in any of the Church Fathers during the first thousand years of Church history.
Now I admit that the evangelical church is not one, monolithic entity. Indeed, exceptions to the above exist. But, allowing for the few exceptions, I would guess that many more do fit the pattern I have described. I would also add that many denominations outside the label of “Evangelicalism” would also find the above as a true description of their worship practice.
Confirming Evidence
One of the confirming pieces of evidence is the Contemporary Christian Music Industry. Take a look at what they are consistently publishing. Again take a look at the CCLI most popular listings. Look at the music and the lyrics, and come to your own conclusion.
Reverence and Humility
This confusion of expressing feelings of intimate love with the giving of reverence in worship is not found in the Orthodox faith. In reading the early Fathers and the New Testament, reverence was inherent in worship. Intimacy, as practiced by evangelical churches today, was a foreign concept.
The St. John Chrysostom Liturgy, St. Basil the Great Liturgy, and the St. James Liturgy, are worship services. Reverence is not a goal in the design of these liturgies. However, in participating in the Trinitarian life of the Eucharist, reverence and humility are naturally resulting experiences. The “need” to express one’s feelings of intimate love and the necessary music to support and encourage these feelings are absent.